Whether you are struggling with communication issues, trust issues, or any other challenges that are impacting your relationship or marriage, Shirin Hart can help you find a path forward that is grounded in compassion, empathy, and holistic healing. Contact her today to learn more about her services and how she can support you on your journey to a happier, healthier relationship.
“What if intimacy was something we could learn and understand? Is your conversation about intimacy and relationship the one you grew up with? Have you discovered anything new intimacy or how to create it? What Would Happen if We Developed a Deeper Relationship with Intimacy? The SH Method for Relationship Counseling is to help individuals and couples access the presence and palpable experience of the presence of intimacy. And to leave each person experiencing a deeper connection to themselves and to each other and the fulfillment that brings to the depths of their being.”
“What if dating and relationship could be an art we could learn? Are you feelings, beliefs and attitudes about dating and relationship from your past? From someone else’s? Could some of it be from a cultural or historical past? Have you discovered anything new or inspiring about dating? What Would Happen if We Went Deeper and Really looked into what you hold in your mind, body and soul around dating, relationship, and intimacy? The SH Method for Dating is designed to help individuals experience the radiant beauty of deep connection and intimacy. And for each person to experience a deeper connection to themselves, others and to life itself.”
— Shirin Hart
What I didn’t know that I didn’t know about dating, relationships and intimacy where the blindspots and barriers we have to connection and intimacy as humans, in our cultures and as individuals. Traditional counseling education and internships don’t explore the subjects of dating or intimacy with any depth.
They talk about relationship issues we develop because of family dysfunction and they help teach communication skills. And that is helpful but they don’t talk about what intimacy is or how to create fulfilling human connection. They don’t talk about dating culture, rules, approaches, or views. So I’ve been studying and exploring those worlds through a psychological lens. All the rules, manipulations, misunderstandings and confusion you may have had to navigate.
Lessons learned so you don’t have to repeat them and you can get to the best parts of the story faster. Together we can remove the barriers that are in your way whether you are new to dating, feeling stuck about dating or are back to dating after a breakup. Through all the struggles I’ve witnessed, including my own, I’ve discovered a whole new approach. I realized that seeing our personal and community blind spots and removing barriers to connection and intimacy transforms a vicious cycle into a breakthrough.
A discovery of freedom and fulfilling connection. And life becomes suddenly more vivid and we feel more alive because meaningful connection is a timeless, deep, and sacred human need.
During the couples sessions, I support the couple in learning specialized communication techniques that support them in getting past defensiveness, and in getting past feelings of hurt, disconnection and even betrayal. We use customized techniques and approaches to help couples learn how to problem solve and experience deeper connection, love, and passionate intimacy. Once emotional intimacy is experienced and learned, you can never get over it. Life and the experience of relationship is forever transformed.
What I used to believe was the traditional couples therapy approach which supports couples in solving their issues through teaching communication practices and problem solving methods. It meets primarily with the couple together. After practicing this type of couples counseling I came to realize that it is a model that misses half of the puzzle and leaves the couple more frustrated and upset.
What I now believe is that a holistic approach is essential for couples having breakthroughs and reaching their goals. The reason is because individual barriers to intimacy can only be effectively addressed in one on one sessions. So in this model we meet with the couple both as a couple and in one in one sessions individually to address those various barriers. In the one on one with each member of the couple we work to help them get past unconscious family patterns, baggage from past relationships, past traumas, the inner critic in one on one sessions with each individual partner. And if needed we can connect our patients with holistic doctors to help optimize hormones, relaxation and energy which can also be key factors in building a healthy relationship and intimacy.
Shirin Hart is a skilled and compassionate relationship counselor based in Los Angeles, who specializes in holistic healing and natural practices to help couples strengthen their bonds and stay together. With years of experience and a deep understanding of the complex dynamics of relationships, Shirin offers a unique approach that combines traditional therapy techniques with alternative methods that are tailored to the needs of each couple.
Unlike many traditional Marriage relationship counselors, Shirin believes that true healing and transformation come from addressing the root causes of relationship issues, rather than simply treating the symptoms. By working with her clients to identify and release emotional blocks, improve communication skills, and cultivate a deeper sense of empathy and understanding, she helps couples create a strong foundation of trust, respect, and intimacy that can withstand the challenges of life.
“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
“Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”